There Are No Leaders, Only Servants
I’ve seen through my marriage God demonstrating that servanthood is a lot closer to leadership than I thought. In fact, I would even venture to say that there are no leaders, only servants.
Yes, it’s a popular belief that man is the head of the household and the wife is designed to submit to her husband. But, if I am serving my wife and am intentional with her heart, then the decisions I’m presenting to her are most likely ones that she is already desiring. It’s easy to say yes to someone who wants to serve you and has your best interest at heart. Especially if they are presenting the very desires of your heart! Vice versa, if she knows my heart and we are intentional, then when she comes to me and present something it’s easy for me to agree. She already knows I’m trying to serve her needs and she will do the same because love is selfless. I’m learning more and more that when I cater to her needs, mine are met in that act as well.
Also, as I serve her and dive more into my relationship with the Lord, I find my needs are very small. When I really look at it, it feels like this verse:
“And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” (James 1:4 ESV)
God gives me everything I need as I seek Him. I don’t even have to present my needs to Him, begging for them to happen, because He knows them better than I do.
The servant heart leads to a total atmosphere of servanthood.
This environment then becomes a perpetual cycle of serving one another’s needs. Add to that identity and supernatural love from the Father and, cut out the selfish ambitions of attaining recognition or obtaining love in order to love, then that’s when you start to understand and experience the Trinity. The beautiful, true unity and communion the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit share and intended to have with us from the beginning. Jesus died in order to restore this fellowship with us.
There aren’t single, solitary visionaries. No shot callers, just one unified goal between all three members of the Godhead. Their single desire is to create reconciliation between them and man and they did it through Jesus.
But, it wasn’t a solitary act upon Jesus that makes us perfect. It’s an image of continually coming into full agreement in order to obtain the price of reconciliation to be able to have relationship and communion with us! Jesus died on the cross saying, “Not my will, but your will,” while the Father surrendered His image unto Jesus to have all of mankind know His nature and know Him, by the name of Jesus.
“If you have seen me you have seen the Father.”
“No one comes to the Father except through me.”
And the Holy Spirit was sent to be the Helper, to dwell within us to continue to do the work and perfect us in the image of God who was sent by Jesus, so that we could be ministers of reconciliation.
To serve is to lead. In order to lead you need to serve. The evidence of a successful culture operating out of that spirit is one that can function fully without you in it and fully with just Jesus.
For example, if I died and my wife fell away from Jesus, I wouldn’t have fully served her in my life. Her heart needs to be in total communion with Jesus whether I’m there or not. Our purpose is to direct everything to the Father.
Likewise, if your community or church would fall to pieces because you’re not speaking or making things happen, then you need to understand the role of a servant leader and the Holy Spirit a little more.
Even Jesus left his disciples. He left them the Helper. Is the Helper being utilized in your community, in your church, and in your marriage?