DEMYSTIFYING DATING

DEMYSTIFYING DATING

From 2015 by Connor Mullen: How do you have peace about entering a relationship? Recently, I was posed this question by a couple in our church. It’s an excellent question, one that I have heard quite a bit. Pulling from experience, I’ve broken the answer down to two fundamental things I have found true for myself: Knowing ourselves and who we are in Christ helps us know the desires that God has placed on our heart. Constructing a list of qualities and characteristics, drawing from our experience around people (hint: look at your best friends) and in dating, that are attractive to us. A part of God giving us freewill is the ability to exercise it. Plain and simple. We choose God, He chose us. We choose to love others, for love can’t exist without freewill. At the end of the day, a choice is much more powerful when we make it ourselves. I teach at a local high school, and time and time again students say, “Mr. Mullen, just tell me the answer!” In response, I ask them questions that pull the answer out of them. God does the same with us. Sure, He guides us in the process. But at the end of the day, choosing to date someone is a decision we make … and it’s not rocket science. We run into problems when we put dating on the same level as marriage. It creates the unrealistic expectation that you are going all in before you have even begun to play the game. That’s pretty scary, isn’t it? How many people want that? Dating is a...

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